Aita for being upset at my dad for giving my room to my stepsister. Backstory: I’m 15F.

Aita for being upset at my dad for giving my room to my stepsister Holly didn't get along with my dad, or myself. My stepbrothers and mum use it as well. The teacher listened but then my dad and his wife found out and so did my stepsister. She's hurt and I could have prevented that by just letting whatever happens, happen. I have an older brother Luke who was 15. No, you aren't. When I was about 10, my mom married my step father. Plus it keeps the daughter's toys contained in one room, which is really a win-win for the whole Edit 2: since everyone is so concerned I sleep naked because I can’t regulate my body temperature well and it helps me sleep a lot better. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of NTA. She has been violent in the past, she yells at you, she invaded a home that the owner barred her from coming to when you were alone and convalescing from a life-threatening condition that you are still being treated for, she is mentally ill and harms herself, and your parents have That one hurt the most, because it's the best definition of my relationship with my father I've ever seen. Further Edit: Alright. They shoulda started therapy for both pairs of kids (sperately) to prepare you for being a blended family loooooong before now. But then the other part of me wonders if had it been my stepbrother’s wedding fund would my stepdad be so quick to give it to my ESH. I have a daughter, Elena (6), and my stepsister Jess has a daughter Hattie (5). OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I feel IATA because I told my ex to establish boundaries between his personal relationship and our kids as I feel his relationship is too new for his gf to be our For context: My mom died when I was 8. My dad had given me some money in advance to pay for the party. My FIL is hard to get along with but we’ve grown closer in the last few months. She might have just taken it and he needs time to work on her and get it back without creating a huge shitstorm because presumably he loves her. And we were much younger than teens. I even gad to move out of my room for 8 months once and have my bed being used by strangers the whole time. Dad and I have a rocky relationship. So I (28F) didn’t have contact with my dad until three years ago. I suffer from anxiety. The only source of conflict we ever had was my dad's family. Ugh, I hate when my dad would point out my leg hair. My stepfather and mom are in marriage counseling together, and seem to be doing much better. I’m not bothered by nudity I’m bothered that I was woken up to someone in my room while I was naked without my consent. I'd be pissed too if my mom's husband kept calling me and calling me while I was at a wedding, especially if I knew I'd done something wrong by not telling my fiancée to put that back it's my He angrily leaves to his room after. My mom decided to host an engagement party and invite her side of the family (her and Dad are divorced). OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be TA because I sent my stepsister out of the room then I threw her stuff outside and locked her out so she’d have to stay with her mom and now my stepmom is I think I might be the asshole in this situation because i told my dad he won’t see me until the morning of his wedding instead of me being there to support them and help set up. (I picked up flowers I planted from our small garden that I take care "AITA for refusing to hang out less with my brothers because of my stepsister?" I (18F) am the youngest of four siblings. our home has 6 bedrooms. Previous to this he was a single father after adopting myself (21) and my brothers (19 & 16). I was an only child until I was just turned 17, when she became my stepsister. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Everyone gathered in the living room. but as long as it contains a bed, they should be good. I asked her what she meant, and she admitted my stepdad had given the money to my stepsister. AITA for reminding my parents that my stepsister ruined our family's future? I grew up in a big blended family where we all consider ourselves siblings and I consider my stepmom my mom. it is my parents house, but her siblings have done nothing for me and it’s a major inconvenience for me to accommodate for them even though I don’t want to in the first place, that’s what would also Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. My stepmom has a daughter that just turned 7, her bio dad isn't in her life and my dad has become her main father figure. They also went to every family event they could reasonably make it to for that side of the family. I wouldn’t worry about burning bridges between the 2 girls, because I can rightly see the stepdaughter shutting her stepsister completely out of her life. My dad gave a long speech about how proud he is of my stepsister. She can give every excuse she wants but it's pretty Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. My aunt was the one who mentioned it. NTA- He didn't communicate with you about your stepsister, then decided to use the room without AITA for telling my stepsister she can't wear my mom's wedding dress. But we have other places in our house for the couple to sleep. Do not ever down Emily’s father for being a good dad. Why didn’t my parents help me? Why did they make me apologize to my abuser? These are questions I still ask myself. They wanted him to He’s practically the king of the house and his territory grasps the basement, the living room, his room, and my dads room. Relationship and bonds can't be forced. my mom left and moved in with her new bf, 50km away from us, while me and my sister (17f) stayed with our dad. It wasn’t ideal, but they did what they had to do. In total it was me, my bf, his 2 sisters (1 with her boyfriend),his 3 brothers and his parents. By the time my parents come inside, we're full-on screaming at each other and my dad yells at us to stop. So my stepdad started referring to me as the Princess, like “don’t open the car window, the Princess will get upset”. I(16f) grew up without a father for a long time it was just me and my mom. i mostly kept my stuff in there Tom is a nice guy, and when she introduced him to the family, he and my husband hit it off, and my husband ended up hiring Tom to work for him. I am still trying to handle the scars of bullying over 15 years later. My mom set this fund up with my dad and because they both earn pretty good money, it has enough money for multiple years at whatever uni I’d like. com - Episode 147 w/ Sam, Madi, Brandon, and Jazsmin - 0:00 R/Comfortlevelpod 1:22 AITA For Being Upset W/ My Eldest Son 3:17 Response 14:27 Son' – Listen to AITA FOR BEING UPSET WITH MY ELDEST SON (WITH FIVE UPDATES) | REDDIT STORIES (EP. Last month, my dad and stepmom announced that they are having another baby and my stepsisters flipped the fuck out. the $300 was for all three of you; the least they could’ve done was give you a $3 cakepop. when my dad got married a month ago to a woman who has a daughter(F17), he gave the guest room to her. NTA. They also gave the hall for dining multiple times to other neighbours for small ceremonies, etc. My sister was absolutely devastated by her health issues and scared, and because they’re great people, my parents were willing to do anything to make her feel better. 147) by Comfort Level Podcast Honestly, if the room is doubling as a play room, it actually kind of makes sense to give the daughter the largest room. They've been step kids since eight and nine. My sisters have known my dad since age five and six. I said Nick is not my dad, my dad died and he bought me Simba and I want to keep him just for me. My dad got married last year. I was told that it was for both of us. I love my Dad. Stepsister is mad because she is well aware that she most likely will never have a wedding at this place. After my parents divorced when I was 4 they split custody of me and he was able to stay a good dad. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. ’ I would rather die than give up my room for an entire two weeks whilst he runs rampart. I thought my The post was not seen in another subreddit so I’ll try here to have some answers. And watching OP getting married there must a sting in her flesh. My mom got mad that I was upset and started yelling at me because my phone was out. After coming home from yesterday, I had to do some work which kept me up until 2am. Instead of telling my wife face to face, I texted her and told her that I canceled their flights and the room and that they had a day to figure something out. AITA for being really mad/upset over this? I get the severity of my brother's health issues, but I feel like they could maybe settle for a cheaper procedure at a less famous hospital? My parents only want the best doctors for him because they're worried someone else might mess up the operation and kill him, but I can't help but feel like they Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. My mom married my step dad when I was 14 and my dad just married my stepmom early last year. Tom and Ellen’s got married and had a baby, and during this time they started having problems. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I'm not trying to push my daughter aside but I admit that making her share a room with a half-sibling the opposite gender 8 years younger than her is not an ideal solution So my mom is having a couple and their son over for one night. Last year, my grandparents (dad’s parents) let me know they had been saving a college fund for me, and over the years have saved a substantial amount. we didn't know until we got back, but basically she said she was just cleaning our rooms and wasn't trying to go through our rooms like that. I called my stepdad to come pick me up and take me back to their house. Your husband is sharing a hotel room with another woman, and this situation raises valid concerns and insecurities, especially given his past experience with infidelity. I know that makes Brad is a piece of work and me and my sister never really bonded with our stepsister. I lost my dad to cancer when I was 13 years old. But her mom left her and so did her mom's They also tossed out stuff that was in my old room still because mom told me stuff wouldn't fit in the office with me That was the only help my mom & step-dad gave me, cheap rent & no utilities. your parents feel that it is their house they paid for everything they can move you around. She didn’t have the money and only had a few weeks before her hysterectomy so she asked my parents for the $13,000, which they obviously gave her. My dad was never interested in me and he and my grandparents fought a lot from the time I was born to the time my mom died. I got in big trouble. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be the asshole for (1) laughing at stepsister wanting a share of my inheritance and (2) leaving her homeless and broke Just deal with it. My stepmom who I believe to be a gold digger now has given my dad the great idea to take my room and give little brother another territory of the house to which he controls. Edit 3: spoke with my dad, he said he was sleepwalking and apologized. Brad has 2 kids Tessa(f26) and Jake(m18) my dad passed away shortly after I was born leaving my mom in mountains of debt. Natalie moved out, and the room reverted from being her room to being a room in your house, which you "gifted" to your son. He married the affair girlfriend like instantly. I have known her since she was four. Now this has became an issue lately because my stepsister is now 12 and has started developing. However, earlier this week we had our first fight. When I woke up today my family group chat exploded with primarily my little sister calling us names and saying we were being ridiculous for being upset and sad about it. I (14f) live with my mom,stepdad and younger step sister and for the sake of the story I’ll call my step dad Nick. I always felt intimidated by him because of the fact that I found him rude and neglectful of my siblings and I. My dad has a 3 bedroom house. My dad is very close to Katie and Sam and considers them to be daughters to him. soon Last week I got upset. My mom and her dad said we had the space to each have a room so there was no need to share. My dad is mad I don’t want to talk or interact with him in Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. He is very spoiled (aka iPad kid). anyways, i think your stepsister should have moved back earlier and freed the room for you. AITA for moving out when my stepsister ruined my father's day gift for my dad? I f16 live with my mom, step dad, and stepsister (18) and stepbrother(20). I understand why you daughter is mad—you should’ve at My dad also contributed to my sister’s wedding and I’m sure he’ll offer to do the same for me. My stepbro will also turn 11 in a few months so my stepdad does not want them to share a room anymore. I was sitting in my room when I called her to thank her Yeah growing up, at one point my brother's shared a room and there was 4 of them. Am I wrong for being upset about it? My wife said I have zero ground to stand on, because for the past several mothers day and birthdays of hers, I've worked and she hasn't been able to do anything that she has wanted to do (her most recent employer gives ALL mom's mother's day off and ALL dad's father's day off, as well as all birthdays, so As I got older I saw they got better presents, but, I also understood from listening to my parents talk about my dad's family, how my cousin's parents were layabouts who didn't work and if it wasn't for my grandparents, they wouldn't have had anything. For years! Until they could afford a house with 3 bedrooms when we got a little older. I got: Cooking x1 a week and washing up afterward, cleaning the kid bathroom (which needed to be done daily because of the little kids), laundry duty which was gathering all our clothes and organizing them for my dad's wife, making my bed, my share of the room and my half sisters part of the room, and my personal space in the office on top of She does provide emotional support/love. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I took stuff from my mom's house that's mine and left it at my dad's because my stepsister would be sleeping in the room while I'm not there and I didn't like that. But then the other part of me wonders if had it been my stepbrother’s wedding fund would my stepdad be so quick to give it to my stepsister. that why Julia had no business being there. My dad and her mum got together when we were 10. I wasn't able to keep much of his belongings because of my stepdad's insecurities and lack of sympathy and respect for me and my dad. He just watches movies As someone who was bullied, notified my parents, and was ignored, I really sympathize with your son and am so proud he stood up for himself. Me, my husband, Jess, and her husband Paul are all staying at our parents' house over the Xmas period. It’s a running family joke, well meant, I’ve never been offended by it in the 15 years it’s Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. AITA? Archived post. This is where I think I was the asshole. If stepsister & her bf are old enough to play house & make a baby, they're old enough to gtfo & pay their own bills! It's not your responsibility Yesterday while I was staying at my dads (I just stay there every other weekend) I wanted to go to the store. If you don’t want her to work, and you and her dad care, parent up and give her $25 a week. I didn’t hear this from Ellen, but from my dad, and from my husband, who was told by Tom. My parents put us in each of the rooms and got a couch bed that they slept on. A was upset about being left out of the celebration and not being treated equal to Mom. though, ive had issues sleeping in there. My parents dated all through high school and had me right after graduating. He barely pays attention to me. I was her only kid. My mom wants me to give up my queen bed for the couple. We are close to his family. i also think you might have overreacted a bit. My parents both worked and always gave us a good Christmas. Even when we were older they still shared because there was literally no other space until they moved out. You’re NTA, you don’t have to shave. They were disgusted with his lack of love or concern for me. AITA for being upset my parents tricked me? i was gonna do my dilation project and my mom came into my room and said were going to the lake, so we got ready and we were in the car and i saw my siblings didnt have towels or anything, just games and toys. Pleading to let me talk to her. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I got upset with my daughter and exchanged nasty words when she told me I couldn’t visit for her birth and 2) I have done things in the past to hurt her and just assumed I I got upset over this because my parents have missed multiple milestones of mine in high school and just a general imbalance of treatment between me and her. NTA for being upset. It means I see my mother in law (MIL) and father in law (FIL) a lot more. It didn't register that my room was the master bedroom until Mom was getting ready to sell the you are nowhere in the wrong for being annoyed about the way they treated you, and the two of them should be ashamed of themselves for manipulating the situation (and by extension, your father) once they got called out for their nasty behavior. Definitely agree here, my dad once dated a women who did the same thing to me, my dad had a four bedroom house I was in the second biggest room, considering when I was at mums which was most if the time I was sharing my room with a baby I was 10 at the time and the room at mums was small, when I would go to dads I loved that I had a big room, my brother also had a I was not consulted when my dad took the decision of taking S and D in, but ok he’s a grown up. But instead of getting through the situation smiling with gritted teeth like an adult, she is throwing a temper tantrum like a toddler. I don't think it's impolite for people to eat these things, but I just can't stand the sound of it. OP’s daughter grossly violated her stepsister’s sense of privacy and autonomy in the most craven and merciless way possible. on the second floor there is my master bedroom, my gaming room and my library. I also ended up keeping my room. now she is demanding that I give one of my rooms to her. I have been lactose intolerant for around 6 years and I This. My father wasn't neglectful in the traditional sense. For the background of the story: I (26F) have a 4-year-old son, the father was abusive throughout the relationship, he became my only "support" and I got attached to him in a very unhealthy way, He abuse me in different situations, I told my family when the baby was a month old, they told me NTA. I got yelled at and had to take out my shelves from my room (had most of my books/art supplies) and my dad demanded to know why I was dating. I have severe anxiety and an ed, he's seen me have multiple anxiety attacks but he doesn't pay them any mind. And married 3yrs, plus dating for a time before that. My (26f) brother (35m) suggested my sister (37f) and her husband (37m) take my room when they stay over at my moms (63f) house. You're asking if you are the AH for being hung up on the separate room issue. I didn’t even think anything if it and said yes. This is all I got 🥇🥇🥇🥇🥇🥇. After everything was getting handed out I realized everyone else had gotten a pile started and I hadn’t gotten anything yet. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be the asshole because I locked my stepsister out of my room and said I won't share a room if she won't share a car, her dad got really mad, and now my dad My sisters got step family heirlooms from dad's side of the family. Backstory: I’m 15F. Im under 18, living with my dad and his ex wife, i have a fairly small room, but ive made do. Being my dad isn’t just expecting me, it also requires for you to listen to me sometimes. Laura has two daughters, Katie (26F), and Sam (22F). I haven’t even had that phone for a month. I (18 f) am in my first year of college and am currently on winter break. It ended up that I had the master bedroom because it had been Grandpa's, and Mom wanted to sleep in Grandma's bed as a way of dealing with her grief. My parents did give them the biggest room though. They never took my stepsister on as their family and when I'd go to visit them she'd get upset about it. And started banging on the door. So after my mom died dad was like we should all move in together and it would be good for me to be surrounded by family and to have that motherly figure right there. When i came I got upset and asked her again and she told me that they couldn’t help with the wedding. Unfortunately I (20 F) am lactose and gluten intolerant. My room was taken over by my step sister unexpectedly, I honestly could've reacted better but seeing all of this really upset me, I yelled at my dad telling him "that he's a worthless father My mom and her dad said we had the space to each have a room so there was no need to share. He went on about he she worked so hard to be a valedictorian and didn’t even mention that I graduated summa cum Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. He texted her without my knowledge after, and said he'd be able to pay a 3rd of the cost to fix it if affording to fix it is the issue. My stepsister went off on me, called an accomplice then ran upstairs and took the gift I prepared for my dad for father's day. My graduation ceremony is being held next week. Likely the parents are only using their room for sleep and well sex. While she does do more chores, I’m also a college student and have more responsibilities. It’s not that we don’t have a spare room because we do! My parents just don’t want them to share a bathroom with my brother. My dad is getting married very soon and his wife will be living with us. My brother (18) AITA for getting upset at my step-dad for refusing to let me bf live with us temporarily For some backstory, I(25f) haven't always had the closest bond with my step-dad growing up. I'm 29F. My bio mom wants my (21M) little stepsister (15F) to help out around the house more. So I entered college late at 22, so I was so proud when I was able to graduate college with high honours four years after that, and naturally wanted my parents there. My step father had Amy and Ada who were 12 and 11. Hi, im 13m and ive had some issues with sleeping in my room for a while. I have my own room and my step siblings share. I think he’s a complete jerk and told the judge I wanted to live with my mom, so I do but they still said I had to go to For some background, my mom had gotten pregnant from a one night stand since my grandparents were pretty religious they sent her off to a different state until she gave birth, so she never got to tell my dad that they had a baby together. this was because my second oldest brother growing up to a teenager and us not having an extra room for me. My mom texts and asks if she could give the recipe book to my grandma. recently, my father moved out which left a room open for me. As I expected, the party was completely about her. ” And to your mother “you are my mom, and you’re supposed to be protecting me and making sure I’m safe. AITA for being mad at my parents for their continuing to be Here's what people had to say to OP: supsofia. Sandra's daughter aka my stepsister is Paige. When my mom and her dad moved in together we each got our own room. My mom died in her sleep when I was only 6 months old. My dad also contributed to my sister’s wedding and I’m sure he’ll offer to do the same for me. She always felt that wasn't fair. starting when i was around 7 or 8 ive always slept on the couch. I gave in and opened the door. I didn’t live their anymore and she needed the space. I (14m) refuse to forgive my dad (48m) My dad doesn't seem to care about me. I sleep on a matress in the living room or in mom's room. Natalie's quality of life will not decrease significantly by moving into a smaller room, but Jonathan's will. My dad did asked about inviting her and I said no. my dad and step mom met after my dad's divorce from my bio mom. He mentioned me once but the rest of his speech was completely about her. Dad married his wife when I was 10 but they met and moved in together when I was 9. We didn't come from a privileged background, my mum was a min wage worker and my dad My stepsisters are not. My husband who is generally pretty quiet and reserved had enough of the negativity and let loose in the text chain. i was 9 at this time. I held the trust fund above my mom's head to treat my sister fairly. So for my parents to get into a fight just made things worse. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I expressed being upset at my parents and threatening to get my own room because they won’t let my boyfriend and I share a hotel room on a family trip. depending on the answer you can tell him “you say you want to be my dad, but you never want to listen to me or protect me. on the first floor there is my(F18) dad's master bedroom, his office and a guest room. I (19f) have a stepsister- Holly-19f. EDIT: Keep in mind that I had few panic attacks that day. My parents divorced when I was 7 years old, and my mom had primary custody of me and my sister, but we I was angry and upset so responded to them in a monotone tone and just tried non to let my emotions get the best of me that when my sister said something i can’t for the life of me wrap my head around: “If you really wanted to come you would have wake up earlier and skipped breakfast so you’re not entitled to get upset or play the victim little bit of a tw for (mainly emotional) abuse my (19f) parents split up 5 years ago. Everything you’ve written here should be more than sufficient to get a restraining order. Nick has been in my life ever since I was 2 years old though when I first knew nick he was a female assigned at birth that later transitioned into male , I have nothing against it as I am and I have lots of friends in the LGBTQ+ community. At all. I begun working once my parents headed to bed (10pm ish). nothing ever changed. they met on a dating site and everything happened pretty fast. my sister's kid (2m) takes one room for himself because he cant sleep with others around (they sleep trained him, but he needs a very particular quiet and dark space to sleep). I remember my parents giving our hall to neighbours' guests for sleeping just few years back, the neighbours had some emergency and didn't have enough room. When I was 19, my stepdad got me a job in his industry, which upset Jess because she was unemployed at the time and wanted the job. My dad already knew about the money my mom left me but he had no idea about the rest. My stepmom mom and her 16yr old daughter moved into my father's home about three weeks before their wedding. he was absolutely heartbroken and fell into a pretty bad depression. I told him no. Hopefully I do this right. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be the asshole for blowing up on my daughter’s friend for excluding her from her group when she was bringing over some food for my daughter, which makes me My stepsister snooped through my messages and saw everything and decided to immediately tell mom and dad. Anyways, my bio mom cash apped me some money. My fiance (21M) proposed to me (22F) last Aug. they were married a year after they started dating. My parents kept me from getting my learners until I was 18 and refused to take me practice driving until I paid for drivers Ed myself. Had to learn and deal with sharing. it is the parents' jobe to give children the family they NEED. So NTA. I’m networking and building my future career. She immediately ran to my room. I (17F) was at my grandparents since the previous day and arrived home to them in the living room with the girls crying and my mom and stepfather glaring at me. HOWEVER, apparently, my cousin has this “very important piano recital” on my graduation day, and she absolutely wanted both my parents there along with HERS. My parents did so did my in-laws. They became upset with what they read and my mom then takes it off them and reads it too. My mom bought me a lock for my room but my stepsister would try to force her way in. My dad said he was telling me I need to share the money. My sister was the party animal and she got pregnant at 18 , my parents took care of everything , she still live with us with no father in picture. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I feel like I might be the asshole because I caused my siblings not getting food the next morning because I didn’t make my stepdad a sandwich the following night. The best feeling was after I moved out and got married. My dog had died and I was trying to talk to him about it, and she wouldnt let me. She said if "our dad" bought him then we should share. AITA for getting upset with my parents for offering my food to my sister? Hello this is the first time I am doing this. It's not uncommon at all for step kids to be included. My dad and stepmom made me take my stepsister with me. Me and my stepsister don't have a great relationship and we have a lot of disagreements and arguments. I never pushed, but it sucked. i was 8 after everything was said and done. I still live with my parents (45 m and 45 f). For context, Paul arrived a day after the rest of us, very late at night because he does shift work and worked late before driving to our parents'. He also wrote on here. I plan to clean my room. I wanted to start looking for collleges now to be better prepared but turns i have no money left, I'm literally sobbing while writing this my parents took my entire money and gave it to my sister. My parents gave my room to my little sister when I left for college too (it had the 2nd en-suite), and I was PISSED! But you know what, they were right. I'm embarrassed to admit I did for a few more years. When we both turned 13, my dad got us each one of those wooden figurines. My dad died and his family stayed in my life and loved me and made sure I had more people to love me. Her parents were very strict, chores everyday, clean room, no dishes left in sink etc. Jess also didn’t get on with my mum, or Ivy, or her dad, and mostly stayed at her mum’s. I told her no, I do not want her to have him, he is special to me because my dad bought him and my dad is gone. This is what my parents did when my brother and I were young. I just found out my now ex stepsister is going through issues and might need to move in with us, which wouldnt be an issue exept they are talking about splitting my room in half and building another room just to cater her. After twenty minutes of trying he told me we could talk later and left to go take her to the store or something. the new gf has 4 kids of her My mom asked if she could keep it for the day to show my dad when he got home from work. My clothes were packed in luggage in a garage and my pc was sold. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. He went to my grandparents (his parents) and they said it was for me since my sister could no longer use it. I am artistic so when I first moved in with my parents i was told i could paint my doors and walls, when i was told this my dad told me they would keep my art there until I NAH. Some background info: my dad died before I [18m] was born, and my mom remarried and had my half sister [17f] with her new husband. one year later he got a new gf and started getting happier and more comfortable again. She was 19. She has no rights to that room. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: (1) Ignoring my step-sister, and i'm planning to keep on ignoring her until I move out by the next year. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I called my parents out and gave them a hard time for giving up my room and kicking the dog out of the house. I can understand her a little bit. Some are saying you're wrong, but I totally understand you being unhappy your father wasn't at your wedding, a once-in-a-lifetime day. This used to happen to me as well. It's about being upset about the ultimatum he threw and still being upset even when he apologized for it. i understand not wanting to have someone in your room where your personal stuff is on display, but the sisters have to share the room with each other all the time. . "AITA for letting my parents make my stepsister clean my room and do my laundry?" So literally as the title says. We recently moved back to his hometown to be closer to family. Just as I understand you being upset, I understand Dad has me (18m) and his wife has Ellie (17f who will be 18 in a week). I instantly got along with my stepmother and I consider her my mother (my 'real' mother isn't in the picture). Above all, work at blending this family, not dividing it, geez. My mom died when I was a baby. Husband and I have been together 7 years. it's okay to let them have their space for a bit if you're staying I was venting about it on the phone to my dad earlier, and my dad is upset for me and even more upset with himself that he can't help me get it fixed, but he's also angry with my stepsister for breaking it. My mom bought me a lock for my room but my My stepsister Mia (18F) just found out she's pregnant, and now my dad and my stepmom want me to give her my room since it's bigger and more comfortable. I would kind of get it if the child was promised a room for college (saving a bunch of money), the sister reneged on that deal (as she, the sister, is entitled to do so), but wouldn't even explain face to face why they did that, which would cause them to be upset (bc she didn't have enough respect for them to just have an open conversation but All while my mom was in the room. And while intellectually I knew that it wasn't my sister's fault but was my parents, and I did and do love her dearly, I harbored a lot of ill feeling toward my sister from the time of her birth when I was 12 yo. Grandma gave jewelry to them. Last time I visited in Christmas I had to sleep in the guest room. Being upset sounds i see, good for you. We went to the car, but when we got there I realized there was nothing in the trunk for her to sit on. Hell, we'll not even leave neighbours stranded. My dad already knew about the money my Yeah I totally agree with you on that matter, honestly I think you should go talk with your parents about getting better privileges since your doing more than what your stepsister is doing, like allowed to stay up late on the weekends or holidays, getting to do things you want without having to ask, or maybe a slight increase in allowance(if you still get one from them) or whatever you Edit: thank you to everyone for sharing this insights and giving me an outside perspective on the situation! My mother and I definitely have differences in opinion but at the end of the day we’re still family so the relationship will still be there despite how much either one of us tries to burn the bridge or declare the relationship dead. He told me he was ashamed of me and expected more compassion and love for my family. But I need to know if I was TA for being upset about my room taken away. Email *For Business Purposes* | ComfortLevelBiz@gmail. My room was completely repurposed for my stepsister. I asked my teacher not to pair me with my stepsister for a project. My dad was really upset, and apologised. My dad was already dating Sandra. My grandma aka mom's mom died recently and I found out she had left a sizable amount of money for me. I paid for the drivers Ed this fall and they still refused to take me out to practice after I went driving with my father once and he exclaimed that my drivers Ed had “ taught me nothing at all and I was never I wanted to stay for a few more hours and I was kept from doing so because my father “hates for me to be like a dog without a home” when all I really wanted was to get out of my mind for a bit. It is now Jonathan's room. At a certain point I was getting too anxious at the idea of dissapointing my new step children, so I just went ahead and cleared both rooms for the kids - givng my older daughter's room to one of my wife's girls. So am I the for being upset with my eldest son, my perspective? So my father posted on Reddit about how I didn't celebrate his birthday in 11 months of sobriety. But OP said mom would take the hits when dad would get upset that stepsister wasn't included such as when they were going somewhere like an amusement park, even taking her along as Context - I am 25F, my parents have been divorced for 15 years, my dad has been married to his wife Laura for 10 years. Meanwhile Lily has almost no money saved up for college, cause her parents didn’t set up a fund in time. She refused to sign anything related to my sister's education unless I give her my word that I will give my step sister equal half of the trust fund. An argument could be made it wouldn't have killed me to work with her and she wouldn't be feeling hurt Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I live mostly with my mom but they were supposed to be hosting the event together. However, this is your grandfather, his dad, in the hospital. Later, Dad and stepmom(A) asked to speak with my fiance and I. Fast-forward to Saturday night the night before Mother’s Day. ) My husband eats extremely fast, in every room of the house, and loves crunchy food. My parents were separated though not divorced yet. We were very close and his death was a major loss in my life. The guest room is small so there is only a twin bed for the son. He went to my maternal grandparents then, because they were the two who originally set up the account and they told him they have no obligation to fund my stepsister Edit: Since people don't seem to realize i was asking about general upset. So the few times I've walked in on my brother, I usually knock first and ask if it's okay if I can grab my toothbrush (in the event that he's going #2 and I'm trying to get to bed) and he says yes. I used to have the largest bedroom in the house but decided to let dad and his wife take it because it makes sense that they get the largest room (my dad didn't ask to have it). aita for getting upset that my mom went through my room? I'm 17f and I have 1 younger sibling, 16f. We have our own rooms and recently when we were at our dad's house (our parents are divorced) my mom went in our rooms. Here's where I might be TA. I come from 2 addict parents who let the house go for weeks on nta - It is NOT the children's job to give the parents the family they want. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I am curious if I am the asshole cause I "didnt care" that my friends entered my stepsister's room when she wasn't even home and none of her stuff was in there. We just come from two different backgrounds really. My parents divorced a year ago because my father cheated. She was upset and got very annoying about it. I get that she needs the space, but Last week, my half sister went into my room while i was visiting my dad to celebrate Christmas early and she told her dad she wanted my room because it looked nice to her. I love my step sister and we are reasonably close. They are also being unfair and irresponsible as parents by expecting you to meet the emotional needs and unrealistic expectations that they created When I was a teen, my parents split and Mom and I moved in with her mother, who was dying of cancer. While we were there she peed her pants, so we had to leave early. Not the A-hole I'd say Y T A because a lot of people have to sleep separate to have a good marriage. Get it. She jumped on me and tried to hug me but I pushed her off. I am at my dad's place every other week and that means that almost every other weekend I have to spend at least one night with my stepmom and stepsister. My aunt on my dad’s side also gave me $5k as a high school graduation gift/money for college so I should be able to complete my degree without needing to get any loans as long as I work part-time too. the fact that they didn’t even want to do that And even then my parents expected me to continue devoting my free time to her care. I f16 live with my mom, step dad, and stepsister (18) and stepbrother(20). I’m pretty upset because the phone has pictures of a friend that passed too and I don’t have it backed up anywhere. She ended up going LC People who play sports are usually very competent, yet you’re making Laura sound helpless and pathetic, and I’m sure she’s not. I have three older brothers Michael (28M), John (27M), and Chris AITA For Not Telling My Dad That I Had Cancelled ''Our'' Hotel Reservation After He Insisted On Taking My Step-Sister? Ok, I get cancelling the hotel room -- he caved to Julia and broke his She called me a dick and left my room crying, my mom came into my room to ask why she was crying. They also hate my dad and their mom for getting divorced, and I usually just end up watching the dumpster fire from the outside and then go laugh about my dad's house with my mom and stepdad. Your father and stepmother failed your stepsister by giving her unrealistic expectations regarding you and they type of relationship you two would have. NTA most definitely NTA My husband is very, very adamant that even teasing our kids a little is OFF LIMITS! Like, we used to get in arguments about it because I thought a little harmless joking was okay, but he finally helped me understand that he was teased as a kid and even what seems like harmless joking to me can be perceived very differently by a kid. Last year my mom got married to my step dad brad. And when they are at our place my stepsister sleeps in my room. We facetime and text all the time. No one should expect that of you and it doesn’t make you any less of a woman to be shaved (so no, he wasn’t tying to help, he was being a dick) My dad eventually stopped commenting when I just went on strike for a while lol. BG: I started in therapy age 10 after my mom and stepfather My parents divorced when I was 12yrs old. The grandfather I am referring to is my dad's father. (I seldom go to movies in theaters because of the popcorn issue and my general strategy is avoidance. Moreover, I wasn’t asked if I were fine with D taking my room. AITA for being upset my wife wants Seperate rooms . We have 4 bedrooms, one for my parents, one for my brother, one for me and one guest room. When I told her my side of the story she got really upset with me and took away my AITAH For Wanting To Use Pass My Wife Gave Me 5 Ye AITA For Refusing To Invite My Half Sister To My W AITA For Even Though My Parents Offered To Pay Bac AITA For We all live together in a 3 bedroom apartment. She wanted us to share, I did not. All of us kids are close except for one: my stepsister Liana [fake name].